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Your RSVP card is the smallest piece of paper in your invitation suite and the one your guests interact with most. Get the wording right and the replies roll in on time. Get it wrong and you are chasing down half your guest list two weeks before the caterer’s deadline. This guide gives you 50+ ready-to-use wording examples for every wedding style, from classic black tie to barefoot backyard celebrations, plus everything you need to know about meal choices, song requests, online replies, deadline phrasing, and how to choose the right card format for your suite.

Need beautiful cards to put these words on? Browse our collection of RSVP cards to find a design that matches your invitation suite. And for tips on pairing your reply card with the right invitation language, check out our invitation wording guide.

Quick-Reference Cheat Sheet

Not sure which wording style fits your wedding? Find your match in seconds with this table, then scroll to the relevant section for full examples.

Wedding Style	Accept Line	Decline Line
Formal / Black Tie	Accepts with pleasure	Declines with regret
Traditional	Joyfully accepts	Regretfully declines
Semi-Formal	Happily accepts	Unable to attend
Casual	Count us in!	Sorry, we’ll miss it
Humorous	Wouldn’t miss it for anything	Will be there in spirit (and tears)
Destination	Bags are packed!	Sadly can’t make the trip

RSVP Card Elements: What’s Required vs Optional

Every RSVP card needs at least three things: a name line, an attendance option, and a reply-by date. Everything else depends on your caterer’s requirements and how much you want to pack into the card.

Element	Required?	Example phrasing
Guest name line	Yes	M_____________ or “Name(s):”
Accept / decline	Yes	“Accepts with pleasure / Declines with regrets”
Guest count	Optional	“Number attending: ___”
Meal choice	If plated dinner	Beef / Chicken / Vegetarian
Dietary notes	Recommended	“Dietary requirements: ___”
Song request	Fun add-on	“Song that will get you on the dance floor: ___”
Reply-by date	Yes	“Kindly reply by October 12”

RSVP Wording Length by Card Format

• Postcard RSVP: 3-4 lines max, every word must earn its place
• Standard reply card with envelope: 5-7 lines, room for meal choice and dietary line
• Folded RSVP card: 8-12 lines, best when adding song requests or guest count details
• Online RSVP on a physical card: 4-5 lines + URL or QR code, keep instructions simple
• All-in-one with detachable RSVP: 4-6 lines, coordinate with the main invite design

Wedding RSVP Cards: Formats, Sizes and Suite Pairing

The physical card you choose shapes what wording fits on it and how guests return it. Understanding the main formats before you finalize your wording saves a late-stage redesign.

Card formats compared

Format	Best for	Wording capacity
Flat card with return envelope	Most weddings	5-7 lines comfortably; room for name, attend/decline, meal and dietary fields
Postcard RSVP	Large guest lists; eco-conscious couples	3-4 lines maximum; return address goes on the back, no separate envelope needed
Folded card	Elaborate receptions with multiple questions	Interior opens to full-card space; best for per-person meal grids or longer wording
All-in-one with detachable RSVP	Streamlined, minimal suites	RSVP panel tears away from the main invite; 4-6 lines before the layout gets crowded
Digital-only (QR code or URL on the invitation)	Modern, eco-conscious couples	No fill-in card at all; guests respond on your wedding website

Pairing with your invitation suite

Your RSVP card should feel like part of the same family as your main invitation: matching paper stock, coordinating print method, and a consistent color palette. If your invitation uses foil stamping on cotton paper, your reply card should pull from the same materials. If your invitation is casual digital print on kraft, a clean flat-card RSVP in the same stock feels cohesive. Browse RSVP card designs sorted by style, or start from wedding invitations and add matching RSVP cards when you order your suite.

Sizing and space

RSVP cards are sized to complement the main invitation, not to mirror it. A larger invitation generally pairs with a smaller reply card so the suite feels layered. If you plan to include a per-person meal grid, verify that the card has enough room for guests to write legibly before you order. A card that looks fine in a design preview can become impossible to fill in when printed small.

Return envelopes and postage

If you are using a traditional mail-back card, include a pre-addressed return envelope with a stamp already affixed. This is the single biggest factor in response rates. Guests who have to supply their own stamp or look up your address respond far more slowly. Check the total suite weight at the post office before stamping in bulk, as a multi-insert envelope sometimes needs extra postage.

What Goes on an RSVP Card?

Before diving into templates, it helps to understand what each line of an RSVP card actually does and why traditional phrasing evolved the way it did. Most wedding response cards include some or all of the following elements:

• Name line: The underscored M at the start of a traditional name line is a classic etiquette shortcut. It prompts guests to write their honorific (Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx., Dr.) followed by their full name. It signals formality without taking up much space. If your wedding is casual or you find the M line confusing, swap it for a simple “Name(s):” label. Both are perfectly correct.
• Response line: A clear accept or decline option, usually presented as a checkbox, circled word, or fill-in-the-blank line. Traditional cards use “Accepts with pleasure” and “Declines with regrets.” Modern cards often shorten these to “Will attend” and “Unable to attend,” or go casual with “Joyfully accepts” and “Regretfully declines.” Give guests exactly two options and never ask them to write out a full sentence to respond.
• RSVP deadline: Phrase this as a specific date, not “one month before” or “ASAP,” so there is no ambiguity. Set the deadline 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding. Your caterer typically needs final numbers 2 weeks out, so this gives you buffer time to chase non-responders.
• Meal choice: If your venue requires a headcount by entree, list the options with a small checkbox or blank next to each one.
• Plus-one or guest count: If your invitation says “and guest” or you are inviting families with children, add a line for the number attending. This protects you from guests who RSVP for two and show up as five. Common phrasings: “Number of guests attending: ___”, “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor,” or the traditional fill-in format: “___ of ___ guests named above will attend.”
• Dietary notes: A short line like “Dietary requirements: _______________” helps your catering team plan ahead.
• Song request (optional): A fun bonus that doubles as crowd-sourced DJ prep.

The traditional “M_____” name line dates to a time when everyone used a formal title. It is still correct for formal weddings. For modern casual weddings, “Name(s):” is simpler and less confusing for guests who are unfamiliar with the convention.

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How to RSVP to a Wedding as a Guest

If you have just received a wedding invitation and are staring at the RSVP card wondering what to do, here is a clear guide. The process differs slightly depending on whether you are responding by mail or online.

Responding by mail-back card

1. Locate the RSVP card. It is usually the smallest card in the envelope, often printed with “RSVP,” “Please reply,” or “Kindly respond” at the top.
2. Write your name clearly. Fill in the name line for every person in your party. If the card uses “M_____,” write your title (Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx.) followed by your full name. If it says “Name(s):” include every guest attending.
3. Mark your attendance. Check or circle the appropriate option. Do not leave this blank, even if you think the couple already knows your answer.
4. Select a meal if asked. Mark one option per person attending. If you have not decided, pick your most likely choice and contact the couple afterward if you need to switch.
5. Note dietary needs. Write in any allergies or dietary restrictions, even if they seem minor. The caterer needs this information in advance.
6. Complete any extras. Song requests, children’s meals, number of guests attending, or other fields the couple has added. Song requests are optional; numbered fields matter for the headcount.
7. Return by the deadline. Place the card in the pre-addressed envelope. Add a stamp if one is not already affixed. Mail it with enough time to arrive before the date printed on the card.

Responding online

If the invitation includes a QR code or a website address, scan the code with your phone’s camera or type the URL into a browser. The online form typically asks for the same information as a paper card: names, attendance, meal choice, and dietary needs. Submit before the deadline shown on the invitation.

If your plans change after you respond

Contact the couple directly, by phone or text, as soon as you know. Do not simply not show up after accepting. Venues and caterers plan based on confirmed headcounts, and a late cancellation affects the couple’s final numbers and costs. A brief message is all that is needed. If you responded as unable to attend and your situation changes, ask politely, but understand the couple may not be able to add you back once the caterer has locked the count.

Formal RSVP Wording

Black-tie and traditional weddings call for language that feels elevated and unhurried. Formal RSVP wording uses the classic third-person construction that etiquette demands, and skips contractions entirely. The same conventions carry across your whole suite, which our wedding invitation etiquette guide covers in full.

M_______________
The favor of a reply is requested by the fifteenth of September.
__ Accepts with pleasure      __ Declines with regret
Number attending: ___

Kindly reply by September 15
__ Graciously accepts
__ Respectfully declines

We request the pleasure of your reply by October 1st.
Name(s): _______________
__ Will attend with delight
__ Regrets, unable to attend

M_______________
__ Joyfully accepts the kind invitation
__ Regretfully declines
Kindly reply by the first of November.

Classic formal RSVP

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure
__ Declines with regrets
Kindly reply by the fifteenth of October

Formal, third-person style

Kindly reply by the fifteenth of October
M_______________
Will _____ attend
Number of guests: _____

Formal RSVP with guest count

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure    ___ number attending
__ Declines with regrets
Please respond by October 15

Formal RSVP with meal selection

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure
__ Declines with regrets
Meal preference:
__ Beef Tenderloin    __ Pan-Seared Salmon    __ Mushroom Risotto
Kindly reply by October 15

Formal RSVP with dietary note

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure    __ Declines with regrets
Dietary requirements: _______________
Kindly reply by October 15

For formal cards, keep the font clean and the spacing generous. A single elegant typeface does far more work than any decoration. Pair your formal RSVP with a matching invitation design from our wedding invitations collection to build a cohesive suite.

Semi-Formal RSVP Wording

This is the most common scenario for modern weddings: warm without being overly casual, polished without being stiff. Semi-formal wording works for church ceremonies, hotel ballrooms, winery receptions, and most venues in between.

Please respond by September 20
Name(s): _______________
__ Happily accepts
__ Regretfully declines
Number attending: ___

We hope you can join us! Please reply by October 5.
__ Yes, we’ll be there!
__ Sorry, we’re unable to attend.
Number of guests: ___

Kindly reply by August 30
Name(s): _______________
__ Delighted to attend
__ Regretfully unable to attend

Please let us know by September 10
__ We can’t wait to celebrate with you!
__ We’ll be celebrating from afar.

Casual RSVP Wording

Backyard receptions, garden parties, and laid-back celebrations deserve wording that feels like a message from your best friend. Casual RSVP cards leave the most room for personality, so lean into it.

RSVP by July 1, we can’t wait!
Name(s): _______________
__ Count us in!
__ Sorry, we’ll miss it.

Are you coming to the party?
__ Yes! See you there.
__ No, but I’ll be cheering you on.
Please let us know by June 15.

Ready to eat, drink, and watch us get married?
__ Absolutely, we’ll be there!
__ We wish we could, but we can’t.
RSVP by August 5.   Name(s): _______________

Come celebrate with us!
Name(s): _______________
__ Happily joining the fun
__ Sadly sitting this one out
Please reply by September 1.

Casual RSVP with guest count

Name(s): _______________
__ We’ll be there!   Number attending: ___
__ We won’t be able to make it
Please respond by October 15

Warm and personal

Name: _______________
Count us in! ___ guests will be celebrating with you
Sorry, we can’t make it ___
Please let us know by October 15

Casual RSVP with meal choice

Name(s): _______________
__ Yes, we’ll be there!    __ We can’t make it
What’s on your plate?
__ Steak    __ Chicken    __ Veggie
Reply by October 15

Humorous RSVP Wording

If your wedding vibe involves a signature cocktail and a playlist that never slows down, your RSVP card should match that energy. These examples give guests a genuine laugh the moment they open the envelope.

Will you be partying with us, or partying in your pajamas at home?
__ Wouldn’t miss it for anything
__ Will be there in spirit (and definitely in tears)
Let us know by September 10.   Name(s): _______________

The champagne is chilling. Will you be there to drink it?
__ Yes, pop the bottles!
__ No, save my glass for someone else.
RSVP by July 20.

We’re getting hitched. You should probably come.
__ Abso-freaking-lutely!
__ Can’t, but I’ll cry happy tears at home.
Please reply by August 15.   Name(s): _______________

This is your (very official) invitation to witness the best decision we ever made.
__ I accept this sacred mission.
__ I regret I cannot attend, but I believe in you.
Kindly advise by September 5.

Themed RSVP wording

If your wedding has a specific theme or vibe, you can lean even further into personality. These examples work for food-focused celebrations, adventure-loving couples, brunch weddings, and bookworm pairs.

Food-lover theme

Name(s): _______________
__ Feed me, I’m coming!
__ I’ll celebrate from my couch
Please reply by October 15

Dance floor theme

Name(s): _______________
__ Shoes on, ready to dance
__ My dancing shoes will miss you
Kindly reply by October 15

Adventure couple

Name(s): _______________
__ Adventure accepted!   ___ guests attending
__ Adventure declined
Reply by October 15

Brunch wedding

Name(s): _______________
__ Mimosas and memories? We’re in!
__ We’ll raise a glass from afar
Please reply by August 20

Bookworm couple

Name(s): _______________
__ Chapter accepted
__ Plot twist: can’t make it
Reply by October 15

Destination Wedding RSVP Wording

A destination wedding RSVP card does extra work. It needs to capture the excitement of the location while being clear about travel logistics. Keep it warm, mention the place, and make declining feel as gracious as accepting, because a long-haul trip is a big ask.

We’re heading to Tuscany, will you join us?
Name(s): _______________
__ Bags are packed! See you there.
__ Sadly can’t make the trip. Sending so much love.
Please reply by May 1.

Kindly reply by April 15
Name(s): _______________
__ Beach-bound and so excited!
__ Will celebrate from home, wishing you both all the joy.

The adventure begins, will you be there?
__ Passport ready. Count us in!
__ We’ll be following along from home. Congratulations in advance!
Please let us know by March 31.

RSVP Wording with Meal Choice

If your reception features a plated dinner, your caterer needs a headcount by entree well in advance. Add meal options directly to the RSVP card so guests can indicate their preference when they respond. Keep the options short: three words max per dish works best in the available space. For a deeper guide to every meal-choice phrasing scenario, including multi-course menus and cocktail-hour selections, see our dedicated post on meal choice wording for wedding RSVP cards.

Single entree row per guest

Please reply by September 15.
Name(s): _______________
__ Accepts    __ Declines
Entree preference (please circle one per guest):
__ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian

Per-person meal rows

Kindly reply by October 1.
__ Will attend    __ Unable to attend
Meal selection (please indicate one per person):
Guest 1: __ Prime Rib    __ Salmon    __ Vegetarian
Guest 2: __ Prime Rib    __ Salmon    __ Vegetarian

Per-person meal grid (for families or “and guest” invitations)

Name: _____________   Meal: __ Beef   __ Chicken   __ Veg
Name: _____________   Meal: __ Beef   __ Chicken   __ Veg
__ We will not be attending
Kindly reply by October 15

Formal RSVP with per-person meal grid

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure    __ Declines with regrets
Please select a meal for each guest attending:
Guest 1: __ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian
Guest 2: __ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian
Kindly reply by October 15

Two-option dinner

Name(s): _______________
__ Will attend    __ Unable to attend
Dinner selection (circle one per guest):
__ Filet Mignon    __ Salmon en Papillote
Please reply by October 15

Buffet (attendance only, no meal choice needed)

Name(s): _______________
__ Will attend   Number in your party: ___
__ Unable to attend
Please reply by October 15

Please RSVP by August 20.
Name(s): _______________
Number attending: ___
Dinner selection per guest:
__ Herb-Crusted Chicken    __ Pan-Seared Fish    __ Mushroom Risotto (V)

RSVP Wording with Dietary Requirements

A dietary notes line protects your guests and makes your caterer’s planning much smoother. Keep the prompt open-ended rather than listing specific allergies, because guests know their own dietary needs better than you do and an open field catches everything a checkbox would miss. A simple text line is usually all you need, though some couples add checkboxes for the most common restrictions.

Name(s): _______________
__ Will attend    __ Unable to attend
Dietary requirements or allergies: _______________
Kindly reply by September 10.

Please respond by October 5.
__ Happily attending    __ Regretfully declining
Meal choice: __ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian
Food allergies or dietary notes: _______________

More specific dietary prompt

Dietary needs (allergies, vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, etc.): _______________

Combined meal and dietary on one card

Name(s): _______________
Number of guests: ___
__ Accepts with pleasure    __ Declines with regret
Meal: __ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian
Dietary notes: _______________
Kindly reply by August 25.

Formal combined meal and dietary (M___ style)

M_______________
__ Accepts with pleasure    __ Declines with regrets
Meal: __ Beef    __ Chicken    __ Vegetarian
Dietary notes: _______________
Kindly reply by October 15

RSVP Wording with Song Request

Song request lines are a popular modern addition to RSVP cards. They double as a crowd-sourced playlist for your DJ and serve as a fun conversation starter. Keep the prompt light, you do not have to honor every selection, but guests love feeling included in the planning.

We’ll dance if you play: _______________

We are taking requests! Song: _______________    Artist: _______________

Song that’ll get you on the dance floor: _______________

My song request (because every great party needs a great playlist): _______________

Song request with advice line

Some couples add a second line for guest advice alongside the song request. This works especially well at smaller, intimate celebrations where guests feel comfortable being candid.

A song for our playlist: _______________
A piece of advice for the newlyweds: _______________

Playful song request

Your song request (we make no promises!): _______________

Place the song request line after the attendance confirmation so it reads as a fun bonus rather than a required field. It is optional, and guests who skip it won’t feel guilty about it.

RSVP Deadline Wording

The deadline line has one job: state a specific date and motivate people to actually meet it. Here are several ways to phrase it, from the ultra-formal to the friendly nudge.

The favor of a reply is requested by September 15.

Kindly reply by October 1 so we can finalize our plans.

Please let us know by August 20, our caterer is counting on you!

RSVP by July 15 so we can save your seat (and your dinner).

Here is a quick-reference table of deadline phrasing by tone:

Tone	Wording
Formal	Kindly reply by the fifteenth of October
Standard	Please respond by October 15
Casual	Please let us know by October 15
Gentle nudge	We’d love to hear from you by October 15
Humorous	Reply by October 15 or we’ll guess you’re coming with a plus-one

Set your deadline 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding date. That gives you enough time to follow up with non-responders and still meet your caterer’s final headcount. Not sure when to mail the invitations? Check our guide on when to send your invitations for a complete timeline.

What to Avoid on Your RSVP Card

A few common RSVP wording mistakes that are easy to sidestep once you know about them:

• Vague deadlines: “ASAP” or “as soon as possible” are not deadlines. Write a specific date.
• No name line: Without a name line, guests sometimes forget to write their name and you receive an anonymous RSVP with no way to identify who sent it.
• Too many options: Keep accept/decline to exactly two choices. Do not add a “maybe” option; it creates follow-up work for you.
• Confusing meal labels: Use dish names your caterer will recognize, not just “Option A” and “Option B.”
• Missing return envelope: Always include a self-addressed stamped reply envelope with printed RSVP cards. If guests have to supply their own stamp, response rates drop significantly.
• Accepting both mail and online RSVPs equally: Many couples who offer both regret it because tracking responses in two places is painful. Choose one primary method and make the other a backup only.

Online RSVP Wording on a Physical Card

Many couples now use a wedding website for RSVPs and include just the URL (or a QR code) on the physical card. This saves postage for guests and centralizes all your responses in one place. The trick is keeping the wording short enough to fit on the card while being clear enough that no one is confused about what to do.

Please RSVP at our wedding website: [yourweddingsite.com]
Kindly reply by September 15.

We’ve made it easy! Please reply online by August 30.
[yourweddingsite.com]

Kindly respond using the website below by October 5.
[yourweddingsite.com]

Scan the QR code below or visit [yourweddingsite.com] to RSVP by September 1.

If you include a QR code, test it on multiple devices before sending. Print it at a minimum of 1 inch square so phones can scan it reliably from a card-sized piece of paper.

Online RSVP on your invitation card (no separate reply card)

If you are skipping the separate RSVP card entirely and directing guests to respond online, the URL and deadline go on the main invitation or on a separate information card, not on a card that does not exist. This wording goes on the invitation or info card itself:

Kindly reply by October 15 at [yourweddingwebsite.com]

Please RSVP by October 15
Visit [yourweddingwebsite.com] to confirm your attendance and meal preference

Kindly respond by the fifteenth of October
[yourweddingwebsite.com]

Return Address and Stamp Reminder

If you’re sending a traditional reply card that guests mail back, two small details will save you a lot of headaches:

• Pre-print your return address on the reply envelope. Guests shouldn’t have to look up where to send it. Your address goes on the back flap or the front of the inner envelope.
• Include a pre-affixed stamp on the reply envelope. A stamp is considered proper etiquette and dramatically improves your response rate. An unstamped envelope is the single biggest reason guests delay mailing the card back.
• Check the weight before stamping in bulk. A card with multiple inserts (meal card, directions card, reply card) may need extra postage. Take a complete sample to the post office first.

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How to Choose Your RSVP Card Wording

Three factors shape your RSVP wording: the formality of the wedding, what information you actually need from each guest, and how you want responses returned (mail-back card, online, or both).

1. Match formality to the rest of your suite

If your invitation uses ‘requests the honour of your presence’, your RSVP card should mirror that voice with ‘kindly respond’ and ‘M_____’. A casual invite paired with a stiffly formal RSVP feels off. Decide your suite tone once and apply it consistently. Browse wedding RSVP cards grouped by formality.

2. Decide what data you actually need back

Every line on the RSVP card is a data point: meal choice, dietary requirements, song requests, transport needs, plus-ones. Add only what you’ll actually use when planning. Each extra question lowers response rate slightly and crowds the card. If you can collect it on your wedding website instead, do that.

3. Pick your return method (and stick to it)

Some couples accept both mail-back and online RSVPs, but many who try this approach regret it because tracking both is painful. Choose one primary method and make the other a backup only. If using mail-back, pre-stamped self-addressed envelopes lift response rate meaningfully.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I handle plus-ones on the RSVP card?

The clearest approach is to address the envelope with both names (“Sarah Jones and Guest”) and print “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” on the card itself, filling in the number before mailing. This removes ambiguity about whether a guest is allowed to bring someone. If plus-ones vary by guest, fill in the number for each household individually before sealing the envelopes.

How do I follow up with guests who haven’t responded?

Wait until 5 to 7 days after your RSVP deadline has passed, then reach out personally by phone or text, not email, with non-responders. A quick message asking whether the RSVP card got lost in the mail works perfectly. Avoid mass group messages, which can feel impersonal and embarrass guests who forgot. Make a note of each reply for your caterer’s final count. If you cannot reach someone after a follow-up attempt, it is appropriate to count them as not attending for catering purposes.

Can I use a digital RSVP instead of a paper card?

Yes. Many couples skip the paper reply card entirely and include just a wedding website URL or QR code in the invitation envelope. This works well for modern, eco-conscious weddings. If your guest list skews older or less tech-savvy, keep a paper option available alongside the digital one. You can note “Reply online at [URL] or mail the enclosed card” to cover both preferences.

What is the “inner envelope” on a wedding RSVP?

The inner envelope is a smaller, unsealed envelope inside the outer mailing envelope. It is a traditional formality in formal wedding stationery suites. For RSVPs, the reply envelope is the card guests use to mail their response back to you. It typically has your return address pre-printed on the front and a stamp already affixed. Modern casual weddings often skip the inner envelope entirely.

What happens if more guests accept than I have room for?

If you are using “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” wording on the card, you have already capped each guest’s allowance before they respond. If you are using an open-ended “Number attending: ___” line, some guests may write in a number higher than you intended. Follow up immediately, politely clarify the limitation, and update your headcount. Setting the deadline 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding leaves time to manage these situations.

What’s the difference between RSVP and “regrets only”?

Standard RSVP asks every guest to reply, whether attending or not. “Regrets only” asks guests to reply only if they cannot come, and silence is treated as a yes. Regrets-only wording saves effort for large, casual events but is less reliable for formal weddings where an exact headcount is required. For most weddings, a standard RSVP with a firm deadline is the safer choice.

What does the M___ line mean on a wedding RSVP card?

The “M” is a prompt for guests to write their honorific (Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx., or Dr.) followed by their full name. It is a traditional etiquette convention that signals formality. If you prefer something more modern, replace it with “Name(s):” and both approaches are perfectly correct.

Should I include a self-addressed stamped envelope with printed RSVP cards?

Yes. Etiquette requires that you pre-stamp the reply envelope so guests do not have to supply their own postage. Skipping this step consistently lowers response rates. The cost of stamps is small compared to the headache of chasing non-responders for weeks.

Can I put meal choices on my RSVP card?

Yes. If your reception features a plated dinner, adding meal choices to the RSVP card is the standard way to collect selections before the event. List each menu option with a checkbox or circle next to each guest name line. Your caterer will give you a deadline for final numbers, typically 2 weeks before the wedding. Set your RSVP date 1 to 2 weeks before that deadline. For a full range of meal-choice wording formats, see the RSVP Wording with Meal Choice section above.

What is the difference between an RSVP card and a response card?

They are the same thing. “Response card” is the traditional etiquette term, while “RSVP card” is the name most couples use today. Both refer to the small card guests fill out and return to confirm their attendance.

Can my RSVP card match my wedding invitations?

Yes. RSVP cards are designed as part of coordinated suites, using the same paper stock, print method, and color palette as the main invitation. When you order a wedding invitation suite, you can add matching RSVP cards in the same order. Browse RSVP card designs or start with wedding invitations to build a coordinated suite.

How should I word an RSVP card for a ceremony-only invitation?

For ceremony-only events with no reception dinner, you do not need a meal choice line. Keep the card simple: a name line, accept and decline options, and a reply-by date. If the ceremony has limited seating, add a “number attending” line to manage capacity.

How do I RSVP to a wedding as a guest?

For a mail-back card, fill in your name, mark your attendance, note any meal choice and dietary needs, and return the card in the pre-addressed envelope before the deadline. For an online RSVP, visit the website URL or scan the QR code and complete the form. If your plans change after you have responded, contact the couple directly as soon as possible.