{"id":17775,"date":"2026-06-28T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-28T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/paperlust.co\/blog\/?p=17775"},"modified":"2026-06-05T18:57:03","modified_gmt":"2026-06-05T08:57:03","slug":"divorced-parents-wedding-invitation-wording","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paperlust.co\/blog\/divorced-parents-wedding-invitation-wording\/","title":{"rendered":"Divorced-Parents Wedding Invitation Wording"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>\n#post-17775 .entry-content p,\n#post-17775 .entry-content li { font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.7; margin-bottom: 20px; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content h2 { text-transform: none !important; font-size: 34px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.3; margin-top: 56px; margin-bottom: 16px; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content h3 { text-transform: none !important; font-size: 22px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.3; font-weight: 600; margin-top: 32px; margin-bottom: 12px; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content table { width: 100%; border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 18px; margin: 28px 0; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content th { background: #1a1a1a; color: #fff; padding: 11px 16px; text-align: left; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content td { padding: 11px 16px; border-bottom: 1px solid #eee; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content tr:nth-child(odd) td { background: #f9f9f9; }\n#post-17775 .entry-content tr:nth-child(even) td { background: #fff; }\n<\/style>\n<p>Planning your invitations when your parents are divorced is one of those details that can feel surprisingly fraught. There are feelings involved, family dynamics to consider, and a small but real risk of accidentally signaling something you never intended. This guide works through every realistic scenario with copy-ready wording so you can choose exactly what fits your family, your relationship with each parent, and the tone of your wedding.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#f8f6f3;border-left:4px solid #c9a96e;padding:18px 24px;margin:28px 0;\">\n<strong>At a glance<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Mother listed first<\/strong> always, unless she is not contributing and requests otherwise<\/li>\n<li><strong>&#8220;And&#8221; signals marriage<\/strong> &#8211; never place &#8220;and&#8221; between divorced parents&#8217; names on the same line<\/li>\n<li><strong>Separate lines, no connector<\/strong> for parents who are divorced and not remarried<\/li>\n<li><strong>Include your last name<\/strong> when parents have different surnames &#8211; guests need context<\/li>\n<li><strong>Stepparents are optional<\/strong> &#8211; include them if the relationship warrants it, not out of obligation<\/li>\n<li><strong>Amicable families<\/strong> can co-host on a single invitation; estranged families may issue separate invitations<\/li>\n<li><strong>&#8220;Together with their families&#8221;<\/strong> is a graceful fallback when the name list grows complex<\/li>\n<li><strong>Talk to your parents first<\/strong> &#8211; no wording formula substitutes for a real conversation<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<h2>The Core Etiquette Principles<\/h2>\n<h3>The &#8220;And&#8221; Rule: Why It Matters More Than You Think<\/h3>\n<p>The word &#8220;and&#8221; on a wedding invitation carries legal weight in social etiquette. When two names are joined by &#8220;and,&#8221; it signals to every guest that those two people are married. This is why divorced parents must never share the same line joined by &#8220;and&#8221; &#8211; even if they remain cordial or are co-hosting. Each parent gets their own line, with no connecting word between them.<\/p>\n<p>Remarried parents, however, are listed as a couple: &#8220;Mr. and Mrs. [Stepparent] [Name]&#8221; or in modern phrasing, &#8220;[Parent Name] and [Stepparent Name]&#8221; on one line, since they are married.<\/p>\n<h3>Whose Name Goes First<\/h3>\n<p>The mother&#8217;s name comes first in nearly every situation. This is the longstanding convention and the one that causes the least friction. The one exception is when the mother is not contributing financially to the wedding and feels strongly that the father&#8217;s name should appear first &#8211; in which case, follow her lead and have the conversation in advance.<\/p>\n<p>If one parent is hosting alone (meaning they are the sole financial contributor and the other parent is not involved in the wedding), that parent&#8217;s name goes first as the host regardless of the above convention.<\/p>\n<h3>When to Include Your Last Name<\/h3>\n<p>When your parents have different surnames &#8211; because your mother returned to her maiden name, remarried, or never changed her name &#8211; guests may lose track of whose child is getting married. In these cases, spell out your full name on the invitation rather than just your first name. This applies especially when both parents have remarried and the invitation carries four names above yours.<\/p>\n<h3>Separate Invitations for Estranged Situations<\/h3>\n<p>If your parents genuinely cannot appear together on a piece of paper without causing hurt &#8211; whether due to acrimony or a parent who is estranged from you personally &#8211; issuing two separate invitations is a completely legitimate option. One invitation comes from your mother&#8217;s household, one from your father&#8217;s. Guests will not see what the other said, and the day moves forward without forcing a paper reconciliation that mirrors nothing in reality.<\/p>\n<h2>Wording Examples: Every Scenario Covered<\/h2>\n<h3>Scenario 1: Mother Hosting Alone (Father Not Involved)<\/h3>\n<p>Your mother is the sole host. Your father may be estranged, deceased, or simply not contributing to the wedding. Keep it simple.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>requests the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of her daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Saturday, the fourteenth of June<\/p>\n<p>Two thousand twenty-six<\/p>\n<p>at half after six in the evening<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>St. Paul&#8217;s Church<\/p>\n<p>Austin, Texas<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>If your mother has remarried and her new husband is co-hosting:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Mrs. Sarah and Mr. David Thornton<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of her daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Note &#8220;her daughter&#8221; rather than &#8220;their daughter&#8221; &#8211; the stepfather is co-hosting, but Emma is Sarah&#8217;s daughter. If David has been your stepfather for many years and you feel close to him, &#8220;their daughter&#8221; is equally appropriate and more inclusive.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;margin:32px auto;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogcdn.paperlust.co\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/paperlust-invitation-1vxv9kfy.jpg\" alt=\"Paperlust invitation, Luxe Haley &#038; Robert suite\" data-no-lazy=\"1\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto;display:inline-block;border-radius:4px;\" \/><\/p>\n<h3>Scenario 2: Father Hosting Alone (Mother Not Involved)<\/h3>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>requests the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of his daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>If your father has remarried and his wife is co-hosting:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell and Mrs. Caroline Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of his daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3>Scenario 3: Both Divorced Parents Hosting Together (Neither Remarried)<\/h3>\n<p>Both parents are co-hosting and are on good enough terms to share the invitation. They are not remarried. The mother goes first, each on their own line, with no &#8220;and&#8221; between them.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>This is clean, dignified, and signals nothing about the parents&#8217; relationship status to guests. It simply presents two people hosting a wedding together.<\/p>\n<p>If your mother returned to her maiden name, include your full last name as the bride:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Beaumont<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;margin:32px auto;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogcdn.paperlust.co\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/paperlust-invitation-1vmanpn3.jpg\" alt=\"Paperlust invitation, Beautifully styled flatlay of a wavy-edge wedding suite featuring invitation\" data-no-lazy=\"1\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto;display:inline-block;border-radius:4px;\" \/><\/p>\n<h3>Scenario 4: Mother Remarried, Father Is Not<\/h3>\n<p>The mother&#8217;s new husband joins her line. The father stays on his own line.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Mrs. Sarah and Mr. David Thornton<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Or in a softer, modern format:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Sarah and David Thornton<\/p>\n<p>Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>invite you to celebrate the marriage of<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>and<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3>Scenario 5: Father Remarried, Mother Is Not<\/h3>\n<p>The father&#8217;s new wife joins his line. The mother stays on her own line, listed first.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert and Mrs. Caroline Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3>Scenario 6: Both Parents Remarried<\/h3>\n<p>Four names appear above yours. This is where including your last name becomes especially helpful for guests.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Mrs. Sarah and Mr. David Thornton<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert and Mrs. Caroline Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>If four names feels crowded on your design, consider the simplified version:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Together with their families<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>and<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>invite you to celebrate their marriage<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>This honors everyone equally, avoids the name-crowding problem entirely, and is broadly understood as inclusive of all parent figures.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;margin:32px auto;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogcdn.paperlust.co\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/paperlust-invitation-16lbjhxx.jpg\" alt=\"Paperlust invitation, Beautifully styled wedding suite flatlay with gold foil calligraphy initials\" data-no-lazy=\"1\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto;display:inline-block;border-radius:4px;\" \/><\/p>\n<h3>Scenario 7: Divorced Parents and Couple Co-Hosting Together<\/h3>\n<p>The couple is contributing financially and wants to appear as co-hosts alongside their divorced parents. This is increasingly common.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Beaumont<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>together with<\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell and James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>invite you to celebrate their marriage<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Or if both sets of parents are divorced:<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Beaumont and Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>Ms. Linda Hartwell and Mr. Gerald Hartwell<\/p>\n<p>together with<\/p>\n<p>Emma and James<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>invite you to celebrate their marriage<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Note that here &#8220;and&#8221; within the same line is not signaling marriage &#8211; it is joining two co-hosting individuals. Context is clear. If any guest might be confused, add &#8220;and their partner [name]&#8221; where applicable.<\/p>\n<h3>Scenario 8: Handling Remarriage with Sensitivity (One Parent Recently Remarried)<\/h3>\n<p>If one parent remarried recently and the stepparent relationship is new or complicated, you are under no obligation to include the stepparent on the invitation. Simply list that parent&#8217;s name alone. No one expects an explanation, and no guest will look for one.<\/p>\n<div style=\"background:#fafafa;border-left:3px solid #ddd;padding:16px 20px;margin:20px 0;font-style:italic;\">\n<p>Ms. Sarah Thornton<\/p>\n<p>Mr. Robert Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>request the pleasure of your company<\/p>\n<p>at the marriage of their daughter<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Emma Rose Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>to<\/p>\n<p>James Oliver Hartwell<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Your mother has remarried (hence Thornton) but you are not listing her new husband. This is perfectly acceptable. The invitation lists hosts; it does not require a full account of family structures.<\/p>\n<h2>Keeping Both Parents Feeling Honored<\/h2>\n<h3>Have the Conversation Before You Design<\/h3>\n<p>Show the wording to each parent before you order. The invitation is often the first tangible signal of their role in your wedding. A parent who expects to see their name but does not will feel the sting long before the day arrives. A short conversation &#8211; &#8220;Here is how I am thinking of wording it, does this feel right to you?&#8221; &#8211; costs nothing and prevents a much harder conversation later.<\/p>\n<h3>Name Order Is Not a Ranking<\/h3>\n<p>Some parents read the host-line order as a hierarchy. It is not. Convention simply puts the mother first. Explaining this to a father who asks &#8220;why is she listed first?&#8221; with a brief, factual note usually resolves the concern without drama.<\/p>\n<h3>Stepparent Inclusion Is Not Mandatory<\/h3>\n<p>If your stepparent paid for half the wedding, their name should be on the invitation. If they have been in your life for twenty years and feel like a true parent, including them is a generous act. If the relationship is polite but not close, leaving their name off is not a snub &#8211; it is simply keeping the focus on those who are hosting.<\/p>\n<p>If a stepparent is listed, have the same conversation you had with the biological parents. No one should be surprised by the invitation they receive.<\/p>\n<h3>When Parents Are Estranged From Each Other (But Both Involved With You)<\/h3>\n<p>Separate invitations are the cleanest solution. Each parent receives an invitation from their respective household to distribute within their guest list. Your mother&#8217;s guests receive her version; your father&#8217;s guests receive his. The ceremony and reception are the same &#8211; only the sending household changes.<\/p>\n<p>If you want a single invitation, keep names to separate lines, avoid any language that implies they are co-hosting (&#8220;together with our parents&#8221; works; &#8220;proudly hosted by&#8221; from a parent who cannot stand the other does not), and let the clean simplicity of the format do the work.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;margin:32px auto;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blogcdn.paperlust.co\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/paperlust-invitation-1vthcrtj.jpg\" alt=\"Paperlust invitation, Beautifully styled minimalist wedding suite flatlay with wheat stalk accent and kraft envelope. Contains Australian identifier 'St Kilda Road Melbourne' on the invitation text.\" data-no-lazy=\"1\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto;display:inline-block;border-radius:4px;\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>Sensitivity Notes: Specific Situations<\/h2>\n<p><strong>If a parent is absent or estranged from you personally:<\/strong> Do not list them as a host. An invitation is not the place to paper over a fractured relationship. List only those who are genuinely involved in your wedding.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If your parents divorced very recently:<\/strong> Consider whether co-hosting on one invitation is realistic for them. Freshly divorced parents are often not in a place to present a united front, even in print.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you are estranged from a stepparent your parent lists:<\/strong> Have a private conversation with that parent. The decision is ultimately yours &#8211; it is your wedding invitation.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If one parent has passed away:<\/strong> See the &#8220;Together with the memory of&#8221; convention &#8211; &#8220;Emma Rose Mitchell, daughter of Sarah Mitchell and the late Robert Mitchell.&#8221; Honoring a deceased parent on the invitation is a meaningful and completely accepted practice.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If parents&#8217; gender does not fit &#8220;Mr.\/Ms.&#8221; conventions:<\/strong> Use preferred titles or first-and-last names only. &#8220;Alex Jordan and Sam Mitchell&#8221; on a single line reads as a married couple. Use separate lines for divorced co-hosts regardless of title.<\/p>\n<p>If you are weighing finishes, the $5 sample pack sets digital, letterpress, flat foil, and foil stamp side by side so the decision is simple.<\/p>\n<h2>Frequently Asked Questions<\/h2>\n<h3>Whose name goes first when parents are divorced?<\/h3>\n<p>The mother&#8217;s name goes first by convention. This applies whether she is the sole host, co-hosting with her divorced ex-spouse, or co-hosting with her new husband alongside your father. The only exception is when the mother is not involved in hosting the wedding, in which case the father is listed first as the host.<\/p>\n<h3>Do I have to include my stepparent on the invitation?<\/h3>\n<p>No. Including a stepparent is a choice, not a requirement. If the stepparent has played a meaningful parental role in your life or contributed financially to the wedding, inclusion is appropriate and generous. If the relationship is newer, more distant, or if including them would cause friction with your biological parent, leaving them off is entirely acceptable.<\/p>\n<h3>How do I word it when both sets of parents are divorced and all four have remarried?<\/h3>\n<p>You have two clean options. First, list all four couples on separate lines (mother&#8217;s household first, then father&#8217;s) with your full name below. Second, use &#8220;Together with their families&#8221; as the host line, which covers all parent figures without naming them individually. When the name count exceeds four adults, the second option usually produces a cleaner, less cluttered invitation.<\/p>\n<h3>Can divorced parents who are not on speaking terms still appear on the same invitation?<\/h3>\n<p>Technically yes &#8211; each appears on their own line with no shared language. But practically, the invitation implies a degree of cooperation. If the relationship is hostile enough that one parent would be upset to see the other&#8217;s name, consider whether separate invitations (one from each household) better serve the reality of your family situation.<\/p>\n<h3>Should I include &#8220;Mr.&#8221; and &#8220;Mrs.&#8221; or just use first names?<\/h3>\n<p>Either works for modern invitations. Formal invitations use honorifics (Mr., Mrs., Ms., Dr.). Modern casual invitations use first and last names only. Whichever style you choose, apply it consistently across all names on the host line. Do not mix formal honorifics for some parents and casual first-name-only for others.<\/p>\n<h3>My mother went back to her maiden name and my father remarried. Guests will be confused &#8211; how do I handle this?<\/h3>\n<p>Include your full last name in the body of the invitation rather than just your first name. &#8220;At the marriage of their daughter, Emma Rose Mitchell&#8221; gives guests the surname anchor they need, even when the names above belong to people with different last names. This is the standard solution for surname confusion in any multi-divorce wording scenario.<\/p>\n<h2>Choosing Your Invitation Style<\/h2>\n<p>Once the wording is settled, the invitation itself can do a lot to bring warmth and elegance to the occasion. A few design notes worth considering for divorced-family situations:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Clean typography, generous spacing.<\/strong> A host block with multiple lines benefits from extra leading (line spacing) so names do not feel cramped. Digital print on a quality stock like 300gsm linen gives you full typographic control at an accessible price.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Flat foil accents.<\/strong> If you want an elevated look without a heavy budget, <a href=\"\/us\/browse\/wedding-invitations\/\">flat foil wedding invitations<\/a> are a striking choice. Gold or rose gold foil on the border or names &#8211; without debossing &#8211; keeps the design sophisticated and the name block clear.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Letterpress.<\/strong> The pressed texture of letterpress printing adds formality that suits a longer, more traditional host block well. Available on 300gsm or 600gsm Wild Cotton paper.<\/p>\n<p>Paperlust&#8217;s design team handles the typesetting for every order. If your host block is unusual &#8211; three lines, four lines, mixed surnames &#8211; note it in your order and the designer will layout the host block cleanly so nothing looks like an afterthought. Your proof arrives within 1-2 business days of ordering, giving you time to review the exact placement before anything prints.<\/p>\n<p>Browse the full <a href=\"\/us\/browse\/wedding-invitations\/\">wedding invitation collection<\/a> to find designs that suit the tone of your event. For save-the-dates that can go out earlier (especially useful when divorced parents have separate guest lists), browse the <a href=\"\/us\/browse\/save-the-date\/\">save-the-date collection<\/a> as well.<\/p>\n<p>Orders over $350 USD qualify for free DHL Express shipping. Standard orders arrive 2-4 business days after dispatch.<\/p>\n<h2>Related Wording Guides<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"\/blog\/couple-hosting-wedding-invitation-wording\/\">Together With Their Families: Couple-Hosting Invitation Wording<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"\/blog\/wedding-invitation-samples\/\">Why Order Wedding Invitation Samples (and What to Look For)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"\/blog\/catholic-wedding-invitations\/\">Catholic Wedding Invitations and Mass Program Wording<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><script type=\"application\/ld+json\">\n{\n  \"@context\": \"https:\/\/schema.org\",\n  \"@type\": \"FAQPage\",\n  \"mainEntity\": [\n    {\n      \"@type\": \"Question\",\n      \"name\": \"Whose name goes first when parents are divorced?\",\n      \"acceptedAnswer\": {\n        \"@type\": \"Answer\",\n        \"text\": \"The mother's name goes first by convention. 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